Not to provide a blog spoiler and stop you from reading to the end but…SHE’S HERE!!!!! After a surprisingly uneventful 9 months here’s the greatly edited blow by blow of the last few days.
On Tuesday (February 3rd) Kate had her weekly doctor’s appointment to make sure everything looked good and we that didn’t need to head to the hospital for delivery. Due to the appointments happening weekly (and usually with little new news)
Cora, meet your mommy.
Kate would go to these alone. KT, Kate’s amazing aunt, would stay home with Nella and I would be at work, getting an update as Kate left the office. The general feeling after the appointment is that we should prepare ourselves to have a C-section on the 13th (yep – that would be Friday the 13th….duh duh duh duuuuuuuuuuhhhh). This was pretty expected by us so we went about life as usual with a Bachelor viewing party with full betting on the “winners” that evening. Kate didn’t feel great all day but she was over 39 weeks pregnant… and we felt like that’s to be expected. Well at 1am the unexpected happened….Kate woke me up saying her water just broke. I jumped out of bet (literally, I sleep hard so when I’m woken up I have a tendency to freak out until I’m fully awake) and Kate called the doctor.
Commercial Break: At this point we also walked downstairs to hand KT the monitor for Nella. KT is Kate’s aunt and unbelievably and selflessly offered to come up and stay with us during the last weeks of the pregnancy. She drove up to Charlotte just before Martin Luther King Jr. day and was so helpful while we prepared for Cora. KT – thank you so much for a taking almost a month of out of your life to help us out. You made everything so much easier and made us much less anxious (especially since Nella couldn’t go to the hospital due to a children ban).
Back to the action. The nurse on the phone told us to head to the hospital immediately so we threw our hospital bag in the car and took off. We made it in pretty good time since the nurse kind of freaked us out. I wasn’t driving like Cole Trickle, but I definitely didn’t pay attention to speed limits and\or traffic lights. We got to the hospital safe and sound and checked into triage where we waited for the next steps.
After triage they got us into a Labor and Delivery room pretty quickly since Kate’s water had already broken. We got settled into the room and prepared ourselves for a long day. Soon after we got into the room Kate really started having some painful contractions. I started to setup shop (get things from the car, park the car in a non-expectant mother spot, etc) while the nurses took care of Kate. The on-call doctor (who happened to be Kate’s main doctor – Dr. Naumann) checked to see how things were going and Kate was 3cm dilated. At that point we started to get “comfortable” thinking it would be quite a bit longer. Mainly, we started asking about pain meds so Kate could potentially get some sleep. We were able to get on the epidural list and waited for the anesthesiologist to finish up with another expectant mother. We thought we may have to try some other meds because the anesthesiologist got called to emergency but just as we were going through those options he knocked on the door ready to get everything hooked up. The doctor did a fantastic job but just after he got the line in we had our one real scare for the morning. Kate’s blood pressure dropped pretty quickly (which caused Cora’s heart rate to drop) and another nurse came flying in to adjust Kate’s position and put her on oxygen. Once we got Kate in another position on the bed everything returned to normal and Kate was much more comfortable. Soon after around 7am the nurse shifts changed and wouldn’t you know it…Heather (the same nurse that was with us when Nella was born) came walking through the door.
Commercial Break: Heather had us numerous times when we were waiting on Nella so we were really happy to see her. She goes to my brother’s church and first recognized us by our last name…I mean how many Dyksterhouse’s can there be? She was actually not supposed to be working but had to call out sick the day before and switched shifts with another nurse. Sometimes it’s hard to see why God does certain things, other times it’s clear as day. Thankfully it was easy to see that He wanted us to be as comfortable as possible with our help since:
- Dr. Naumann (who we trust 100% about everything to do with pregnancy) cleared her morning schedule to stay with us.
- Heather wasn’t even supposed to be on the schedule for the day and not only was there, she was assigned to our room.
Back to the action. Now that Kate was much more comfortable we started emailing and texting people to bring them up to speed. Shortly after we caught up with Heather a little bit, Doctor Naumann came in and checked on Kate. She had to repeat herself because she said Kate had dilated all the way to 9cm in only a few hours. The waiting part was almost over, time to get our game faces on.
Once we got word Kate was 9cm, things really started to happen in our room. I started getting things organized since it looked like we wouldn’t be in there nearly as long as expected and nurses started prepping everything for delivery. Around 915 it was time to start. We had no idea what to expect since Nella came as an unscheduled C-Section, but it was much calmer than what we built up in our minds. For a little over three hours Kate would expend all her energy during the contractions. In between each contraction we would talk with Heather to try and keep ourselves calm. Being that this took three plus hours Heather now pretty much knows everything about Kate and I, including the fact that one of the pastors at her church married us in Charleston (small world!). After hours of labor Dr Naumann noticed that although Kate was doing everything she could, it seemed like we would need some additional assistance to welcome Cora into this world. There was no danger to Cora at this time but Kate was starting to get exhausted.
Commercial Break: I’ll use this time to say what every husband who has seen his wife go into labor knows…thank goodness men don’t get pregnant. Seeing how hard it is just during delivery (nevermind the 9 months leading up to that and portpartum time frame) makes me very happy to be a dude. It also really brings to light just how awesome Kate is. She’s way out of my league and for some reason decided to spend her life with me, I hit the proverbial jackpot.
Back to the action. After Dr. Naumann assured us that Cora was in no danger (and we wouldn’t need a C-Section) she asked us if we would rather keep going or try and use a vacuum to help. After discussing the options we opted for some assistance and she explained Cora would be here within the hour. About 30 minutes later we joyously welcomed Cora Marie Dyksterhouse into the world.
She’s here and she’s healthy. Man, those first few minutes you hear your child’s cry and see just how tiny he\she is….words cannot describe the joy and emotion that you feel. Everything above was new to us because Nella came so early and went through an entirely different birth. The one very awesome part of Cora’s delivery is that when she arrived we could hold her. We could hold her as long as we wanted and with no one else in our room. There was no worrying about wires or monitors…it was just Cora, mommy, and me. God has blessed us with another daughter and at the time she seems so much different than Nella. She’s sleeping pretty well, loves to eat and most importantly….is pooping all over the place. We know there are numerous challenges in front of us in raising two daughters but for the moment we are living pretty blissfully. We are so excited to start this next chapter of our lives and we know we have an army of friends and family behind us to help.
Well that was our day if you can sum it up in a few paragraphs. Sorry it’s so long, it’s
Ssshhhh….don’t tell the staff.
a little hard to try and get everything you were seeing and feeling in a short paragraphs. Right now mommy is recovering well and it extremely happy she doesn’t have to go through a C-Section recovery. Cora is under some bilirubin lights which prevents us from holding her as much as we like, but she’s still right beside us in our room. I’m just happy to have 3 wonderful girls in my life every day now and that’s worth celebrating. If you know anything about me, you know there’s only one way to celebrate…that’s with a nice glass of bourbon (neat of course). That’s gotta happen…even if it means family has to smuggle it into the hospital.